Breakups Hurt. But You Were NEVER in Love With Them.
You didn't lose love - it was only an illusion.
If you’re going through a breakup or separation…
…remove your earphones from your ears and lean forward.
What you’re about to read will give you a new perspective on LOVE.
I heard this from Peter Crone - one of the most underrated spiritual coaches.
He said something to a woman going through a separation…
and it shifted her entire energy in seconds.
Here’s my take on it…
If you’ve been suffering, I promise you’ll be in a better place after you read this.
Let’s say you’re a candle.
Not lit yet.
You come in contact with another candle burning so bright that it also lights you up.
Then someone moves that candle away.
Is your light gone, or is it still burning?
What makes YOU burn is your own wax.
You THINK you are or were in love with the other person.
And now that this person is no longer in your life or is about to move on, you think you’ve LOST your love.
You’ve probably gone through a LOT of pain, guilt, or anger.
You’re devastated.
You THINK your world has come to an end.
You poured yourself into this relationship - your time, energy, money.
More importantly, your love.
Let me tell you something…
You NEVER really were in love with the other person in the first place.
What you were in love with was the VERSION OF YOU that was with the other person.
You loved who YOU were with the other person.
The version of you that felt like a new life, that was at its best - in its PEAK FORM - emotionally, energetically, and psychologically.
The version of you that FELT SO BEAUTIFUL and SOULFUL on the inside.
But you PERSONIFY your love with the other person.
Love is like the vibrance of a rose, the fresh scent of grass, and the brilliance of the sunshine - it’s ON no matter what.
Yes, the seeds flower only under the right conditions, but the flower is the seed’s PEAK FORM.
Flowering is the seed’s ULTIMATE quality.
Once it has found expression, it’s not dependent on anything else for it to continue its radiance.
When the sun sets, the flower doesn’t become a seed again.
No, there’s no going back.
Love is a quality that found its expression through you.
It’s YOUR quality - a quality YOU exude no matter what.
Yes, the other person has been a CATALYST to propel you to feel the feelings you felt when you were with that person…
…BUT those feelings came FROM YOU.
You were the source.
You STILL ARE.
Because that person left, it doesn’t mean they took the love away from you.
It doesn’t mean you’ve LOST all your love.
Your love always BELONGS TO YOU.
YOU OWN your love.
It’s YOUR QUALITY.
Don’t believe me?
Close your eyes and recollect your intimate moments with that person.
How do you feel?
Who felt those feelings?
Are those feelings lost - or still within you?
Those feelings of love, that lovely version of you, is accessible RIGHT NOW within you - but only if you UNHIDE it.
No matter how hard it tries, the butterfly can never go back into its cocoon.
Don’t imagine you lost it all when the other person left - that’s a fiction your mind is making up to dramatize the event.
Transformation is a one way street - our reptilian brains can’t grasp this.
No matter how much light or heat the whole planet consumes, the sun never loses its brilliance.
It keeps shining, no matter what - THAT is its truest quality.
Bless and thank the person who left you - they brought out the VERSION OF YOU that you were head over heels in love with.
Don’t lock up your love in a prison. You’re not trapped.
You have an INFINITE capacity to exude love - regardless of who is or isn’t in your life.
Yes, you DISCOVERED it because of the other person.
But give yourself enough credit - YOU did all the work to allow it to flower WITHIN you.
You THINK you found it outside, with the other person.
No. It was, is, and always will be within you.
UNLOCK your love.
Let it lift you and transform everyone else around you.
Wish you nothing but the best 👊
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That title sounds like written by someone whose heart is still hurting. Unless it is clickbait. If you NEVER where in love with them, it kinda implies you can't even be in love with anyone but yourself.
I don't want to undermine the points you are making here, but I think there is more to love than that, and you actually can be in love with someone else and their qualities that nourish your love for them. Relationship is not just about the feelings you generate for yourself, in my opinion, it's also about how you make the other person feel and how they make you feel. You generate each others feelings.
Of course one should not make all the love you can feel depending on one specific person, but I think there are external qualities in the other person you actually fall in love with.